The up and down make me confused and erratic sometimes. I tend to talk more and listen less if I am in a good mood. In contrary, I am likely to keep silent without much words. This behavior is a sign of self-protection. Generally, I prefer to be myself and hold all the words inside myself in part because I am reluctant to share my thoughts with anyone else. At that moment, I think I am more passive than being active as most time I act like.

Leadership is so important to the gathering group. The good leader is able to set the direction and build the atmosphere which is so crucial to retain people. The leader should follow God and at the meantime he or she is capable of handling the relationship among members. In addition to learning God's word, the leader should make almost every member feel comfortable. Love is essential to retain the group but is not the all elements. Knowledge, the way of dealing with issues, attitudes and values are the deciding factors to contribute to the success of the group gathering. Possibly, it can explain why some sisters who have all the love and the best heart fail to keep more people, especially the male members. They lack some elements, like values, knowledge and attitudes to have some meaningful communications with brothers.



What is the purpose of God to put me in this group?