Being angry with myself

It is hard to being a very good person by relying on my own ability. Sometimes, i find myself in a dilemma that i am not able to figure out the right way to deal with relationships. For instance, being active or being neutral or even silent sometimes, which one should be better. From the worldly perspective, the better way is to keep silent and to remain secret. In contrast, from godly view, we should be honest and expose ourselves to others. There is nothing we could hide from our inside. Unfortunately, it is very difficult to handle the balance between this two views. The transaction is hard and we are likely to fall into the confusing situation.